Working for Change: Wrap Top and Wide Leg Jeans

If there is one thing I have learned about living through these current times is that change won't come by simply waiting for it. You have to ask for it, demand it, pray for it, and be relentless in your fight to see it happen! This applies to social justice, your career, and relationships.

This week at work, a  college hire was asking me for some career advice and my biggest tip was to advocate for yourself. One thing I have learned is that people treat you how you allow them. No one will know you have a problem if you don't tell them! So if you are living in a situation you don't like (personal or professional), a situation you have the power to change, then do something about it!

Top- Forever 21 | Jeans-Uniqlo | Shoes-Nine West

Only What you Water will Grow

Imagine what you could accomplish if you lived up to your potential every single day. What would happen if you stopped falling into lazy habits and allowed fear to motivate you instead of hindering your progress? Remember that potential means nothing without action.
Only what you water will grow! That applies to yourself, relationships, skills, finances, career and the list goes on. I believe that many of the blessings I'm basking in now are the products of seeds I planted years ago and nurtured with prayer, faith and perseverance.

If you planted a seed and have yet to reap a harvest, keep watering it. Good things take time to form and sometimes the biggest and best things happen for us after we break through the soil of the struggles that we persevered through. Just because you don't see a flower doesn't mean the plant is not growing beneath the soil.
There are things I invested time into that I have yet to see flourish because I wasn’t consistent about nurturing those passions and skills. This quarantine has challenged me to find time to devote towards things I love, things I hope to see grow in the weeks, months and years to come.
Style: I originally bought this satin dress dress to wear to church, but since the church buildings remain closed I wore it outside for a walk. Because these days, we get dressed up to stay local!

Dress-Asos | Shoes- Nine West

Running into Summer: Mom and Toddler Style

I’m walking out of Memorial day weekend feeling relaxed, refreshed and grateful. I got almost 8 hours of sleep every night and actually woke up before my son could wake me! I loved on my family extra and we spent some quality time with two of our closet friends.
This weekend was filled with both joy and pain. Spending time with those I love whether it is in person or through technology always brightens my mood. However, this weekend was dampened by the Zoom memorial service for my Uncle Derrick who passed away from COVID-19 complications. It was a beautiful service that made me ugly cry, smile and laugh. He lived such a vibrant life and loved his loved ones deeply. I miss him every day but I find joy recalling memories of him and reflecting on how much he loved me and my family. So this week, my heart is heavy for all those who have lost someone during this season as well as the essential workers who labor on the front lines every day. I took off the week from work on bereavement so I could spend some much needed time with family and rest and I’m so glad I did! We've been able to spend extra time with my mom which has been special.
One of my favorite things to do is style cute outfits, but you already know that! My Uncle Derrick and I bonded over our love and fashion and I made it a point to be well dressed every time we saw each other. I got this jumpsuit on sale from Asos and its definitely going to be a staple in my summer wardrobe. Jumpsuits are an easy one piece outfit wonder! I don’t wear much pink but when I look at this color, it makes me happy! Avery is wearing a top and shorts from the Gap!
Jumpsuit- Asos | Shoes- Asos, sold out but I love these and these

Simple Style and Self Care Tips

Happy new week! I wanted to share some self practices I've been doing that have helped me create more peaceful moment in my life:

Motivated by Love: Mother's Day Message and Family Style

All I am and hope to be as a mother and wife is rooted in love. Motherhood is sacrifice, service, exhaustion and joy, but above all it is love! My mother's love was the foundation of my family as I was growing up. Her love looked like making meals, doing chores around the house, teaching me how to love God and myself, working long hours, sacrificing her wants for my needs and always making room to spend quality time with me even when she was exhausted. Her love made me feel so secure and it stills does. Till this day, when my mother prays for me, I feel the peace of God and the confidence that I navigate through the toughest or easiest of days. I'm a good mother and wife because I had a great example to follow. My hope for my son is is that he always feels warm, confident, secure and connected to God in and through my love.

A Promotion Worth Praying For

God can humble you and set you on high places within the span of a year. I wrote that down months ago believing that God was going to do something big in my life. Despite all the uncertainty of this year, one thing I know for sure is that 2020 is a triumphant year for me and it has been because I got promoted at the end of the first quarter!

Quarantine Reads

We’re four months into 2020 and COVID-19 and still plaguing our world. It is strange to live through a time where we must stay at home as much as possible to stay alive and reduce the spread of the virus. It’s easy to get bored and have cabin fever while spending some much time at home so here are a few #quarantinereads to keep you occupied while at home:

Nike Women's Air Max 200 Mystic Green: A Little Dressed up with Nowhere to go

Sometimes God put a blessing in front of us, but we’re so busy looking for it in a different package that we miss the blessing and find ourselves wondering in the wilderness looking for what He already tried to give us.

Strong Style with a Cool Mom and Baby Boy

I’m not a regular mom. I’m a cool mom, a strong mom, a smart mom and a fly mom raising a cool kid! For as long as I can remember, I’ve loved fashion and putting outfits together. Now I get to style my son and I! Clearly he likes when we coordinate outfits and maybe style will be one of the things we bond over as he grows and develops his own sense of style.

Happy International Women's Day 2020

God will give you glimpses of the life you've been dreaming about to show you it's possible and to motivate you to keep working towards your goals. I'm grateful for all the women who have shown me that my dreams are attainable and I hope to do the same for other women. Happy International women's day!

Position Yourself for a Power Move

Your posture while in your current position determines your outcome:

  • Are you complaining when things are not going your way or are you are seeking to learn the lessons that come from each obstacle?
  • Does doubt creep up when you’ve been praying for a miracle and don’t see it come to pass? 
  • Do you believe that everything happens according to God’s plan, which has a different timeline than your plan?

No Playing or Praying Small in 2020 and Beyond!

2020 is going to be an amazing year. I’ve been saying this to everyone because I firmly believe it. I’m confidant in who I am and the blessings God has in store for me. I’m mindful of my thoughts and the power they have to influence my decisions, and I’m not playing small.
For the past few months, I’ve been spending more time in devotion reading the Bible, watching sermons and listening to podcasts. One recurring message through all those activities is that we were created to live to our full potential and our potential requires us to live boldly. That means we need to be specific about what we want and ask for it (and not the bare minimum) when speaking to people and praying to God. We also need to dream bigger. Have you ever thought that maybe you’re just surviving and living paycheck to paycheck (not including the emergency fund in your savings account you may have stacked up over the years) because you’re praying small and safe prayers and not reaching and striving for more in your personal and professional life? God wants us to thrive. Thriving doesn’t merely come from asking God to enlarge our territory (1 Chronicles 4:10) or for wishing for more. It comes by doing the work. That work may be inconvenient and uncomfortable at times, but if we want better and different for ourselves, we have to operate differently.
In 2019, I spent half my year (from January till June) struggling with confidence after the birth of my son, but that will not be my story this year! Depression and imposter syndrome almost got the best of me, but God came through as He always does. I forgot who I was while I was depressed. Negative thoughts about myself permeated my mind and I allowed them to control me, which led to me thinking and playing small at times. I’m not the same person I was in January of 2019. From June to December of 2019 I spent a lot of time in therapy, meditation with God, and did the inner self-work therapist love to talk about! God used 2019 to build a stronger, wiser, smarter and more resilient me. I have grown, my mindset has evolved and I will not tolerate nonsense from myself or anyone who has or wants access to me. 
Over the last few months I took the steps and did the work to become a better version of myself and I want us all to be the best versions of ourselves we can be. We were not created to shrink or play small, so let's not shrink ourselves in 2020 and beyond. We owe it to ourselves and God to strive for greater and thrive!

Dress- Zara | Shoes-Aldo | Glasses- New York and Company